Wondering why God has allowed something abhorrent to come into our lives shouldn’t be swept under the rug. Or viewed as wrong. In fact, true answers to the question Why Me? are valuable.

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Let’s be real. Have you ever observed people who are indifferent or hostile towards God whose health, business, families, or endeavors are flourishing while one or more aspects of your life seem to be crumbling beneath your feet?

At some point in time, many of us can’t help but ask God, “Why?”

Why, Lord, would You bless that person with the very thing I’ve earnestly been seeking You for and haven’t received? Especially when I’m trying to walk with You in love and obedience?

Unfulfilled longings can encompass everything from so-called minor requests we lay before God to matters of life and death. And any resulting queries of “Why?” (when not answered with truth) can lead to deeper turmoil:

Why is this happening?

I thought You loved me?

What about Your promises, God?

When we begin questioning God and His Word, we’re right where Satan wants us. He effectively manipulated Eve in the Garden of Eden in this manner (see Genesis 3:1-5) and his methods haven’t changed. (For deeper insights on this consider Recognizing Deception-Based Temptations; They’re Sneaky and Effective.)

God’s enemy is our enemy, but Satan—whom the Bible also calls the great deceiver—often masquerades as though he is a friend to us.

To make matters worse, we almost can’t help but think of ourselves first and may feel God should give us everything we ask Him for. Hence, the question:

Do you ever wonder if God is dealing out greater hardship to you than is your “fair share”?

I’ve had such thoughts. Why was God withholding His blessings from me? Was He punishing me for something that, even with prayer and genuine soul-searching, I was unaware of? Or was He holding something against me I thought I’d been forgiven for, but hadn’t?

Believers must be very careful, here. Searching our hearts and seeking God for insight into areas we perhaps are out of step with Him on is essential, and consequences from our sin are real (Psalm 139:23-24; Galatians 6:7-9). Yet if we’ve laid ourselves bare before Him—both through confessing and turning away from known sin—we should not assume God is displeased with us when things are difficult. It’s wise to know what God has recorded about our trials; otherwise, we make room for Satan to move in with false answers to our questions (which are designed to take us down).

Let’s unwrap a few biblical insights on this.

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 Why Me?

Interestingly, two initial answers to this question are generic for those who follow Christ and those who don’t.

FIRST:  We are all members of the human race. God created man in His own image; with the ability to choose and exercise his will (see Genesis 1:27). With the historic fall of Adam and Eve, the human race and the world were plunged into the consequences of sin and its effects are everywhere: weeds, sickness, pain, unloving spouses, corrupt leaders, murders, rebellious children, foreclosures, infertility, death, and spiritual separation from our Creator. Of course, that’s just starting what could be an unbearably long and depressing list.

 The question “Why me?” singles us out when, in actuality, we’re a part of the whole.

We all suffer from the sinful effects of mankind together (Romans 8:19-22). The believer in Christ, however, has the promise of an eternity free from the suffering of sin. Yet it’s easy for us to forget this is a promise of things to come.  Paul encourages us to know “the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us” (Romans 8:18).

SECOND: Why Me? Because God is faithful to His creation. Does this one surprise you? While we’re all members of the fallen human race and suffering together from the effects of sin, God is mercifully showing His faithfulness to mankind by not letting us succeed in all problem-solving. God permits occurrences in our lives and the world which are wholly and completely out of our control.

Even though the Bible states “knowledge will increase” in the end of time (Daniel 12:4), each disaster we encounter is proof that man is not in control. And while Satan and the majority of those sounding off tell us God does not exist or is not in control, God is faithfully reminding the world on a daily basis that He is God and we are not (Isaiah 44:6-8). None of us can say sin isn’t that big of a deal or that we are in control without first embracing stubbornness and choosing to live in denial of what is right smack in front of us.

A reading of Job 38-41 beautifully showcases God’s wisdom and power as He directly rebukes His own suffering servant who finds himself unable to answer a few simple questions from his Creator.

God’s daily reminders that we are not in control pave the way for searching hearts to look beyond themselves to see God, their Maker, and hear Him when He calls.

And that is a blessing!

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After recognizing the first two reasons for suffering (universal on their face), the answers for the child of God continue on a deeper, more personal level:

THIRD: Because Christ desires His own to be in the world for the purposes of continuing the work of salvation (evangelism). In other words, God has not forgotten those who don’t have a personal, free, and forgiven relationship with Him and He continues to speak to the unsaved today through His Creation, His Spirit, His Word, and His adopted children. We see this clearly in Jesus’ prayer on behalf of His disciples in John 17:15-23:

 I do not ask that You take them out of the world, but to keep them from the evil one … As You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world … I do not ask on behalf of these alone, but for those also who believe in Me through their word … that the world may know that You sent Me, and loved them, even as You have loved Me.

Although Christ longs to have His followers with Him in glory, the period of grace in which unbelieving people can call on His name for redemption (saving or forgiveness of sins) remains open. We’re partly here, suffering along with the rest of humanity, in order to relate to people, sympathize and hurt with them, befriend and love them, and share with them the wonderful news of Jesus, our Savior.

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As you reflect on these initial answers to the Why me? question, I suspect you’ll find them thought-provoking and helpful. Be sure to catch ETL’s next release and the sweetly intimate, remaining truths within God’s Word which have the power to change the entire focus of our question of…

Why me?

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Until then, take hold by faith that you are deeply loved by God. Consider also being refreshed by listening to Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus featuring Loyiso Bala, Neville D and Ivan Siegelaar. When we look full into the wonderful face of Christ, our sorrows will lead us away from bitterness or hopelessness to the incomparable riches of life in Him.

You are loved!



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  • Beryl says:

    Amen! Wonderful truths and teminders! Joy comes in the morning!

  • Evelyn says:

    1st Peter 3:14 but even if you should suffer for righteousness sake you are blessed. James 1:2-4 is always a good reminder for me when I ask “why me “. Should I perhaps ask “why not me”
    Convicting blog June

  • Becky says:

    I especially enjoyed this post! Just a small correction as you go along. Genesis 3 only has 24 verses not 50. I just thought that you might want to correct that at some point. It’s at the beginning of the blog in the first paragraph under the first small photo. Thank you for your faithfulness!

    • June says:

      Thank you, Becky, and good catch! It was supposed to be Genesis 3:1-5 and the correction has been made. I appreciate you and your help so much!

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